I was married for three years before I realized what an awful husband I was. It took my wife having a near nervous breakdown for me to find out that the man I thought I was was a lie.

Learning how to be a good husband took me a decade of hard work and dedication. I did it all on my own, without a guide or any resources whatsoever. I really believe that if I'd had some good advice, a few good links to websites or personal blogs, or any kind of outside help, I could have made the transition into a good husband in just a year or two.

Here are three tips that you can follow to learn how to be a good husband. I'm not promising that just reading these tips will miraculously turn you into an awesome spouse--but they're a good place to start. Check this blog frequently for new information on how to be the husband your wife always wanted.

1. Get over yourself.

Sadly enough, most bad husbands are men who are so stuck on their own problems or their own welfare that they don't realize what an awful husband they are. A good husband puts his family's best interest before his own. It may sound strange, but as soon as you put your family ahead of yourself, you'll find that you're right where you need to be.

2. Fall in love with your wife.

You may tell your wife "I love you" and you may think you're in love with her, but becoming a good husband means falling in love with her all over again. Only this time, you'll do it for real. See, men in America are brainwashed into thinking that they can't show emotion or have feelings. Being a good husband means sharing your feelings with your wife and listening when she shares hers. Close your mouth and open your ears and you'll fall in love with your wife for a second time.

3. Take personal inventory.